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A wedding guest is asking for some advice following an argument with his girlfriend over the attire he wants to wear to the event.
He explained in the post that he received an invitation to his friends Max and Kate’s wedding, along with “loose guidelines” on what to wear to the event. Writing that he wants to wear a “8-yard kilt with a Prince Charlie or Braemar jacket and waistcoat,” which he normally wears for formal events, the user said he asked both the bride and his girlfriend Sara what they thought.
“Before I received a reply Sara told me that I absolutely cannot wear my kilt because it wouldn’t be appropriate for formal attire,” he wrote. “But she said that she would leave it if the bride said it was okay… Kate responded that it was great because Max would also be wearing a kilt as would a handful of other people at the wedding.”
However, the user reiterated that his girlfriend once again “insisted” that he not wear the kilt because he would “stand out too much" and then took it a step further and even reached out to his friend Max and “asked him to tell me not to wear my kilt.” When Max told him about what happened, the Reddit user admitted that he felt “hurt.”
“I was kind of hurt and when I asked why she asked Max to tell me not to wear a kilt she said that she thought it was the only way to get me not to embarrass her,” he said.
A stock image of a man wearing a kilt.Getty
“I kind of get the embarrassment angle, I do sometimes get stares when I’m wearing a kilt in public, and I know that she is introverted," he continued. “… She hadn’t really encountered kilts before and she has had some misgivings about me wearing them in the past.”
The user also said he got “kind of mad” and told her that he “didn’t have to bring” her as his “plus one,” which led to them getting into an argument. He said he felt “justified" in his decision but wasn’t sure if he was “in the wrong.”
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Several other Reddit users backed him up on his decision, with one writing, “It appears that everybody but your [girlfriend] is fine with your wearing a kilt. Leaving her behind for this wedding would clearly be a kindness so that she can avoid being embarrassed.”
“As long as what you’re wearing is within the guidelines of your friends' wedding, you should be okay to wear what you want. Your girlfriend has the same freedom to choose how to dress at this event,” a third person agreed.
source: people.com
